As our three children were growing up we taught them what the Bible teaches about sex.
We’ve also taught this material in a seminar for parents and teenage children.
We made our expectations clear, gave them specific guidance and principles (not just rules), and told them we’d be asking them if they were living up to these standards.
This deepened our relationship, opened communication and created healthy accountability.
As a result, Cindy developed a deeper understanding of truth, and Rob was forced to face the lies he'd always believed.
If you're like Cindy or Rob, and you've taken a stand for (or against) premarital sex, but you're not sure why, here are some things to consider.
"Those parts of the Bible aren't relevant to today," he told Cindy. After all, if they're not true because people can't control their desires, why not completely eliminate them? Crazy or not, Cindy had made her point—there are holes in Rob's it's-not-true-because-people-can't-control-their-desires theology. Because, if his beliefs were based on truth, they would stand up in every circumstance, but they don't.
(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.
God made sex physically desirable by creating us with sex drives, without which sex wouldn’t exist and neither would people.
"After all, when the Scriptures were written, the people during that time got married when they were teens; so they didn't have to struggle with sexual temptation like we do now." In response to Rob's argument, Cindy found Scriptures about sexual purity and showed them to him. After all, we can just pick and choose the parts of Scripture that we want to believe on sexual purity, right? For example, if sex before marriage is okay because people supposedly can't control themselves, then it must be okay to engage in pornography, too, right?
When Cindy read 1 Corinthians 6:9, 2 Corinthians , Galatians , Hebrews 13:4 and Deuteronomy -28, all which condemn sex before marriage, she asked Rob, "Are these Scriptures relevant to today? After all, the temptation to watch and participate in porn abounds like it didn't in Bible times.